A reader writes... I love my husband dearly, but I do not love his short fuse. On many occasions he throws full blown temper tantrums, screaming obscenities at the top of his lungs and throwing whatever is in reach whenever he gets frustrated about something. I know that he loves me, but I'm worried about getting in the way of his temper and getting physically hurt as well as emotionally. He and I have talked about this many times and he says that he sees vast improvements, but I think that he is acting exactly the same if not worse. I'm thinking about leaving him, but I am not sure if it is the right thing to do. Should I keep dealing with his short fuse despite the danger, the embarrassment, and the emotional beatings or should I stay with him because he is trying to change to be a better person?

A reader writes... Q: I’ve been married to a wonderful woman for five years and have known her for 10. She is fun, caring, witty, smart, interesting, and a great mother. I love her very much, but in the last several years our sex life has become nonexistent. This is partly because she is never the aggressor, and mostly because I have to admit I’m not physically attracted anymore to this woman whom I love. She’s not unattractive, although she has gained weight since I first met her (but so have I), especially since our child was born. How can I force myself to be turned on by someone who used to do so but doesn’t anymore? This must happen to most couples around the world as they get older and change — I guess it’s the difference between love and lust — but how do I stay faithful in a relationship if the attraction isn’t there anymore?