A reader writes... Q. At a weekly get-together my husband and I host, we have an odd issue occurring with three of our friends. One pal, "Mike", seems to have his eye on "Valerie", even though "Valerie" is dating "Tony" and everyone is aware of this. This situation has been going on outside of the get-together, but "Valerie" has been feeling bad about it and told us, even though she doesn't want "Mike" to know that we know. I'm concerned that this situation might hurt everyone around, even those not involved should it bubble to the surface. "Valerie" seems meek about it, but has stressed that she prefers "Tony" over "Mike", and "Mike" has his own issues that he's been trying to straighten out. On my take, "Mike" is too self-centered and blind to be in a relationship, especially if he's trying to show up "Tony" in front of "Valerie". Is there any point where I should feel responsible to do something about this?

	75% (250)	Yes... and that something is STAY OUT OF IT!
	3% (13)	Yes... if it looks as if Valerie is going to make the wrong choice
	18% (62)	Yes... but only if one of the parties request it.
	2% (8)	Yes... Tony should be tell about Valerie's indiscretion

A reader writes... Q: My college roommate recently asked me to go to a bar with her to meet up with a guy she had been talking to. We met him and some of his friends and had a really good time. The guy was cute and nice, and I was instantly attracted to him. When we got back to our apartment, she told me that she was not going to talk to him anymore. She said he’s 30, and her parents would freak out if they knew she was even talking to a guy nine years older than her. I have been tempted to try to contact him, as I do not have a problem with the age difference. If my roommate doesn’t want him and I do, then he is fair game, right?

	46% (590)	Yes. And she has every right to expect her roommate will be POed
	48% (623)	Yes. But she should ask permission first.
	1% (20)	Yes. But she should keep it a secret until the roommate finds a new boyfriend.
	1% (17)	No. The friendship with the roommate is more important than this infatuation.
	2% (28)	No. He's too old anyway.