A reader writes...
Q.: My feminist wife has recently requested that I do not look at her naked, as it makes her uncomfortable. But she gets upset with me when I apologize for accidentally seeing her unclothed, saying that it's not a problem.
We sleep separately as she is a light sleeper and I am an incurable snorer, but are in a loving relationship and have a child.
I crave intimacy, and she says she does too, but there is always some reason it doesn't happen.
I don't see a way way out of this catch-22 situation. How can I broach the subject without looking like just another [dumb] male?
|56% (1005)||He can't. They both need a third party -- like a therapist -- to wade through this mess.|
|0% (10)||Give it time.|
|16% (299)||No sex? Separate rooms? He's hardly married. Get a divorce!|
|1% (28)||Blindfold himself in the bedroom.|
|24% (441)||Maybe if he stopped thinking about this person as his "feminist wife" and started thinking about her as "his wife," that'd be a good first step.|