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POLL: Make it 'til you fake it?

Friday, May 15, 2009 - 12:00 AM

A reader writes... Q: I have been married for 10 years. My wife is a great woman, fantastic mother, beautiful and caring. I love her dearly, but our sex life has been a struggle ever since we got married. Once we got married it was like a switch turned off and her sex drive nearly went away completely. We are at a point now that I just have to wait/hope she is in the mood. That will happen about twice a month. My real frustration comes whenever I'm in the mood and try to initiate sex. I've been coldy rejected so many times that I'm nervous to even try now. Why is this a one-way street? I've expressed my feelings about this countless times and we argue around in circles. She recently asked me to trust her to take care of my needs. She says it wouldn't be right for her to give in and "fake it." I'm also frustrated there are no other options besides intercourse. We tried going to counseling once and the therapist was terrible. She kept asking us what we should do. We've been arguing for 10 years about it! How would we know? I've never cheated but I'm so frustrated I'm afraid I may cheat if given the chance. What do I/we do?

POLL: It's wrong to "fake it."
10% (100) Yes, it is. But I do it anyway.
16% (157) Yes. And I never do.
20% (198) No, it isn't. But I still do it.
13% (128) No, it isn't. And I never fake.
38% (366) Unghh! Ahhhh! Ohhhh! (Sorry, what was the question?)
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