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POLL: Say "when"...

Friday, July 17, 2009 - 12:00 AM

A reader writes...Q: How much time must pass before it is permissible to demand that a man make a commitment? My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years. We spend nearly every night together, at my place or his. Our relationship is great (I think), but I am 30 and would like to have some sense of my future with this guy. He's had a few relationships before, and he said they ended when the women started to pressure him. Do I give him an ultimatum and risk losing him? I really don't want to get back into the dating game. Or should I give him more time?

POLL: After three years of intimate dating, this woman should...
7% (105) ... dump her non-committal boyfriend
42% (603) ... give him a deadline, and be prepared to walk
37% (538) ... give him enough space to let him see what life would be like without her
1% (17) ... start seeing other men on the sly (just in case)
9% (132) ... be patient -- these things always work out
2% (40) ... try harder to please him
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