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POLL: Stork contrast

Friday, October 02, 2009 - 12:00 AM

A reader writes... Q: I have been with this lovely girl for over two years. We have often talked about our hopes and dreams and everything seemed in alignment until a few days ago. She confessed that the dreams I thought we shared were not what she really wanted. I had hoped we would get married and have kids some day. It turns out she doesn't ever want kids and was only going along with it so I would stay with her. She doesn't think it would be fair to keep me from my dreams by stringing me along nor does she think it is fair of me to ask her to have kids. We love a lot of the same things and I imagined things going smoothly for a long time to come. I've tried talking to her and trying to compromise but there doesn't seem to be a way to make both of us happy. Beyond this one important issue there isn't anything else wrong with us and I love her dearly. We are both graduating college soon and we could head in different directions but realistically neither of us have a plan and I am not ready to say goodbye and I don't think she is either. So my question is now what?

POLL: What should this guy do?
11% (125) Stick it out. Maybe she'll change.
18% (201) Keep trying to find compromise.
56% (611) Break up. There's no future here.
1% (21) Try to convince her how fun kids can be.
11% (121) Give up on your hopes of having kids. You'll get used to it.
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