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POLL RESULTS: Dial a Date: (7 comments)

POLL: Dial a Date

Friday, March 05, 2010 - 12:00 AM

A reader writes... If you’re not into your first date, what’s the best thing a guy can say to exit reasonably quickly, while being respectful about it? What’s the best way for a woman to do the same?

POLL: Since it's so widely known, does anybody still use the "buddy phone call" on a blind date?
 
20% (222) Sure!
 
46% (519) No way.
 
32% (364) Maybe.
1105 people have voted in this poll. (This poll is not active.)
CasualNotice
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Re: Dial a Date (Score: 1)
posted Friday, March 05, 2010 - 04:47 AM (#55250)

There's probably nothing wrong with faking an emergency to get out of a date, but it's probably better to simply live through it and let the other person know you're not interested in anything besides friendship.


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whutaguy
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Re: Dial a Date (Score: 1)
posted Friday, March 05, 2010 - 05:48 AM (#55251)

What's the matter with honesty? Apologize, offer to pay for whatever has been done so far (dinner or movie or whatever) and both of you can try to salvage whats left of the day or night.

As for the poll, people will always use old tired methods for everything. Men still use lame 70s pick up lines.


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NunyaBidness
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Re: Dial a Date (Score: 1)
posted Friday, March 05, 2010 - 08:30 AM (#55252)

I'd rather a woman was honest. I had one agree to a date, develop "car trouble," then have "A friend drop by the house," and when I asked if she'd changed her mind, she insisted she really did want a date. Not even "Can we try some other time, I'll call you?" Just nothing but evasion and dishonesty.


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vorlonagent
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Re: Dial a Date (Score: 1)
posted Friday, March 05, 2010 - 12:37 PM (#55255)
In Response to NunyaBidness (#55252):

People often fear to be honest because they fear to cause and/or receive hurt as a result. This is especially true when it comes to matters of the heart.

But facing fear is a good thing, so if the only thing that comes out of a null-chemistry date is facing a fear, well hey you got something out of it.


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Atavism
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Re: Dial a Date (Score: 1)
posted Saturday, March 06, 2010 - 01:19 AM (#55260)

Just front up and tell the truth. If someone is sensitive enough to be hurt by that, then they would get hurt even more if you string them along for a while first.


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lwj2
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Re: Dial a Date (Score: 1)
posted Monday, March 08, 2010 - 07:36 AM (#55281)

How about something simple: "Thank you for a pleasant evening. Have a good night."

After all, you did take up her evening. No point in being rude about it. Presumably you had dinner at a decent restaurant, possibly saw a movie or went to the theatre. So it's not a total loss.


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Caffeine
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Re: Dial a Date (Score: 1)
posted Wednesday, March 10, 2010 - 12:01 PM (#55309)

I'll admit, I had an emergency exit strategy planned when I had the first (blind) date with my current boyfriend. Well, I didn't need it - obviously - and it was 3 years ago, but nevertheless I see nothing wrong with it.


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