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POLL: A Heavy Issue

Friday, May 28, 2010 - 12:00 AM

A reader writes... Q: I married at 21 and have been married for five years. I really love my wife, but there is an issue I can no longer deal with. I know it’s common for married couples to put on weight (I put on 30 pounds myself), but my wife keeps gaining. We do not have children yet, so she can’t use that excuse. She’s put on 75 to 100 pounds since our wedding, and I don’t think she is going to stop. We joined a gym together, but she stopped going. We shop together and buy healthy food, but when I get home from work or look in her car, I see fast-food wrappers everywhere. She says she would like to lose weight, but she never does anything about it. Where it gets really bad is in the bedroom. I won’t lie: I am not attracted to my wife now, which makes sex nearly impossible. She constantly asks me if I am still attracted to her. Is there a good way to tell her the truth?

POLL: What should the husband do?
5% (121) Be supportive of his wife, and continue to encourage her
81% (1635) Sit the wife down, have an honest discussion about his feelings, and map out an exercise plan
3% (66) Learn to love with it. She's not going to chance
9% (196) Get a divorce now. This is going downhill fast.
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