POLL: Kissin' Cousins

Calling it: Fake letter. Nobody is this oblivious. Someone's trying to start a battle of the sexes.

Quite honestly, the fact that you're browsing through her text messages seems to indicate that something's rotten in the state of Denmark and it ain't the goat cheese.

I've got to agree with Lisa above that this is a fake entry.

The only other real option that i can consider is that this is some stalker crazy guy - obviously mate, you think that the 2 of you are a couple but does she also think that as well....

I hope this is a fake letter. If it isn't then the alternative is that someone out there is so clueless that he has no hope of leading a normal life.

I think it's real. And, I think that he's the "reacher". Some people just can't get out of that high school mentality.

Maybe cousin = boyfriend? If you can't keep it in your pants, at least keep it in the family.

This was the #2 google for the text of the entire question -

http://www.philly.com/philly/columnists/20100618_S teve_and_Mia__He_spied_on_his_girlfriend_and_found _a_new_guy_s_text_messages_on_her_cell_phone.html

See, you can tell it's a fake when he mentions that his girl was going to a Phillies game.... And who snoops through another person's text messages? I mean, really, how rude.

@TheOriginalJes:
If you're going to put in a URL, please use HTML so you can make the link a live one. Otherwise you get "spaces" (literally "%20") in the URL when you copy it that you have to manually remove to use it. Steve & Mia, June 18, 2010 [philly.com].

To the Original Poster (who I assume is the same person who sent it in to the Philly.com column), if you're for real... Seriously, dude, she's just clued you in to her entire game plan. When she says "cousin" she means "guy she's banging". If that's what you're into, have fun... but if not, drop her like a hot potato, get yourself tested for STDs, and get the heck out of there.

OK look, this is simple. You are looking through her texts which right off the bat means you don't trust her. Second she keeps lying to you, and then had you lie to another guy. She is most likely cheating, but even if she isn't she is most certainly a liar. A liar which you obviously don't trust. Leave her, leave her now, and leave her quickly.

Done in one, I do declare. Seriously, anyone oblivious enough to be caught in this kind of stupidity isn't going to suddenly wise up enough to write in like this without also knowing that he's been played for a sap, and cutting things off (obliterating the need for said letter). :P

This is just depressing. I don't doubt it's validity. Most men are willing to in the name of "space" to let women go out and break off dates.

As for checking somebody's phone, meh, I occasionally check a friend's phone if they leave it out just to see how it works and generally poke at it. Friends have played with my phone when I leave it on the table. If your phone is that personal, maybe you need to stop being so creepy?

I think you are very lucky and I envy you. This woman is obviously into a lot of sex, probably kinky, and she has also provided you with the perfect excuse to dump her without having to feel guilty. Have a lot of really experimental sex with her, preferably something that you have always wanted to try with someone whose feelings you really no longer care about, and then dump her for being a dishonest whore. You lucky bastard.

The next time she goes to a Phillies game with you, if she asks you to pretend to someone that you are her girlfriend, that's when you should be suspicious.

well, he says he's 'seeing her'.

Lots of people seem to think that she's his girlfriend and they have agreed on a monogamous relationship. Maybe even the poster.

Why exactly? It seems to me that it's more likely that neither of this is true, and the poster should have a good talk about basic assumptions with the woman in question. Good chance is that he's "just a friend" with or without benefits to her, and he just failed to (want to) notice that he's not the center of her world and the guy she wants to be true to for the rest of her life; that does not mean that she's evil, it just means he's deluded.

I met a girl who used to say the same thing...

From her point of view, does not matter what the boy thought, does not matter if the excuse was convincing or not. From my point of view, she probably dated or was related to people possessive and not very intelligent, so she created this "habit of lying" even when not needed.

Anyway, this is a behavior of adolescent that fits well with those who read another person SMS.

From her point of view, does not matter what the boy thought, does not matter if the excuse was convincing or not. From my point of view, she probably dated or was related to people possessive and not very intelligent, so she created this "habit of lying" even when not needed.

One of my old college roommates married a woman who was like this. She thought nothing of telling the most outrageous lies if they could help her get what she wanted, and she expected people to believe her. She usually got away with it, too. She had been runner-up for Miss California, and people cut beautiful women a lot of slack in our society.

After many lies and much cheating, my buddy finally realized she was a sociopath when they divorced ... and she accused him of child molestation so she could get custody of their daughter.

(It messed up his life for a couple of decades, as you might imagine. She finally admitted under oath that she had made the whole thing up and had lied to the police and the divorce court. She was never charged. Go figure.)