Re: Have you no shame? (Score: 1)
posted Saturday, July 03, 2010 - 08:29 AM (#56354
I expect the career longevity expectancy of a "professional mistress" with no other talents is quite short. Then again, the 1980's cliche was that most mistresses were secretaries (administrative assistants) first and their bosses' flings second, so at least they had their typing speed.
Given the nature of the current population and workforce and TV (both "entertainment" and "news"), the tendancy to be someone's "on the side" is nowhere near as prevalent as the original poster seems to think. 99.9+% of men lack either the time, energy, money, interest, or some combination of the above to support a girl-on-the-side in addition to their official family. 99.9+% of women won't tolerate being a girl-on-the-side if they know about it.
Also, in the end, most people want something stable, at least by the time they turn 25. (While many men apparently crave excitement in their 40's, it's a matter of nostalgia for the long-gone sense of energy and invulnerability they had in their early 20's.)
On-the-side relationships are not stable, with the constant threat of getting caught, of the person with another primary relationship pulling out without warning to refocus their priorities, of the person who is the on-the-side encountering the other's primary partner and/or blackmailing the other with revealing the on-the-side relationship... And if the primary relationship dissolves because of the on-the-side one, the person in both rarely has enough resources after being taken to the cleaners in the divorce settlement to satisfy their original on-the-side partner as a new primary partner, not to mention the built-in distrust that comes from the origin of the relationship.
Bottom Line is, as-seen-on-TV is either a non-standard data set, or outright fiction.