POLL: Caught Holding the Bag

There's almost never a choice I like in the poll. For this one I would choose "Maybe." I can think of a couple possible reasons, like it being a friends, but theres also a chance there is no good explanation.

Heh. He should put itching powder on the push-up bra inserts.

If they've been married for 35 years, I assume she's about 55. Not that many 55-year-old women would look good in skimpy shorts and a skimpy top ... would your wife? (Although that probably explains the push-ups.)

Also, she has been rude to me a lot lately and almost never has anything to say about what she does with her time, other than work, when she is not around.

Forget the cloth handbag and its contents. These are the signs your marriage is in trouble.

Has your wife started hanging around with any teenagers or early-twenty-something, lately? Do you have a teenage daughter who might be rebelling?

Alternatively, it might be medical. Sudden personality shifts, especially wild ones, can be caused by brains tumors or sudden and wild hormone shifts. And don't take "It's not a toomah" for an answer until after she sees the doctor.

Medical or not, you won't find out without somebody asking a question. Whether you ask her yourself, or here a PI (and risk either the PI or his bill getting spotted), asking us and not her is not going to get you the answer you need.

Behind a chest of drawers sounds like it could have been there a while, and to be honest, It sounds exactly like a bag a myself/friend of mine/my sister would have had visiting, especially in the summer, just like a standard gone-swimming bag to me, which makes the poll results really surprise me.

"Lately" is a relative term. Has there been a stressful project at work in that time period? Major change in environment situations? Ect? Other than that, severe personality shifts really should be brought to a doctor very quickly, but that's as far as I understand. This sounds like a potential counselling situation to me.

I'm surprised by people here.

Has anyone heard of the word "menopause"?

You don't need to have a brain tumor to feel like something the cat threw up (and to be short-tempered as a result).

I agree that this poll could use a "maybe" option, since there could be some other possibilities. Could it be that she's been feeling bad about herself and the shape she's in, and so begun working out secretly? Either way, ignoring the situation and the problems communicating won't make anything better. It may delude you into a false sense of security for a bit longer, but that will only make it that much worse if you find out something is going on. Sit down and talk about it (without being confrontational if you can).