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POLL RESULTS: He just doesn't click with real women: (4 comments)

POLL: He just doesn't click with real women

Friday, November 05, 2010 - 12:00 AM

A reader writes... Q: I’m a man in my 30s who has been divorced for several years and have had my share of unsatisfying short-term relationships. While checking out Internet dating sites a few months back, I stumbled across some adult webcam sites. I ended up visiting them somewhat regularly. I enjoyed the whole “no strings attached” element but didn’t like the amount of time or money I was spending on it, so I gave it up. Ever since, I have lost interest in communicating with “real” women. Is there anything I can do to get my game back?
POLL: What should he do?
1% (14) Go back to the cam girls
38% (523) Keep dating, he's just getting used to it
38% (530) Stop dating all together and take a break
9% (131) One word: Escorts
12% (171) Duh. Date a cam girl.
1369 people have voted in this poll. (This poll is not active.)

Posts: 83

Apr 2008
Re: He just doesn't click with real women (Score: 0)
posted Friday, November 05, 2010 - 12:19 PM (#57431)

That's a tough one. You're dealing with the difference between exactly what you want to see/feel, and something you have to work at and take what comes, so to speak.

Both take a certain amount of work. With the first, you have to find the right girl who does the right thing the right way.

With the second, you have to find the right girl who...

I guess it's time to go out and do some field research!

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Posts: 55

Oct 2009
Re: He just doesn't click with real women (Score: 0)
posted Friday, November 05, 2010 - 12:43 PM (#57432)

Break time!

If real women don't interest and fantasy internet women are too costly, take a friggin break and decide what's important to you.

If all you want are easy kicks, cool.

If you want someone in your life, cool.

I suspect you haven't really gotten over your divorce, but papered it over with quick-fix relationships and quicker-fix net-cams. Do your mourning time, but stay alert. Ms. Right could step out of the crowd at any time.

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Posts: 64

Jun 2008
Re: He just doesn't click with real women (Score: 0)
posted Saturday, November 06, 2010 - 01:07 AM (#57434)

NunyaBidness and vorlonagent both seem to have good points. In either case, it sounds like taking a bit of a break to figure out what you want is in order.

I can sympathize, though. I've been a very long time without female companionship, and even getting started just seems to be a daunting proposition with the ease of porn so readily available. It sounds like you're able to get started, you're just not sure what you want. vorlonagent's point about not quite being over your divorce could fit in here.

Good luck!

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Posts: 33

Feb 2008
Re: He just doesn't click with real women (Score: 0)
posted Tuesday, November 09, 2010 - 07:28 AM (#57441)

Keep looking, it'll take a while.

When my first wife and I broke up, I 'hermited' for about two years.

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