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POLL: Mono relationship; poly problems

Wednesday, February 02, 2011 - 12:00 AM

A reader writes... Q: After my (monogamous) marriage dissolved a couple of years ago, I decided to return to the polyamarous lifestyle-- ie, open relationships. This actually worked out better than monogamous dating did for me, but then I reconnected with a very old friend whom I'd been in love with for a very long time, and things got romantic. I agreed to a monogamous relationship with her, but there's a problem. She knows that I am, by temperament, poly. She doesn't think I'm cheating on her, or that I'm going to, but she stresses constantly about the fact that I might want to have sex with another woman. Not that I would-- that I'd WANT to. I've told her she's enough for me, but that's not helping. It upsets her a lot. Any advice?
POLL: What should he do?
4% (44) Gradually work her into the polyamory lifestyle
40% (396) Keep reassuring her. You need to build trust.
54% (533) All women worry about their husband wanting to sleep with another woman. Your poly past doesn't make you special, pal.
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