Re: Fear of Intimacy (Score: 0)
posted Wednesday, May 04, 2011 - 06:35 PM (#59059
Yay, I'm in the minority once again! I voted with the don't get started dating if you just aren't ready for it. Dating should be something you want to do, not something you dread. If you can't simply get out there and ask some girls out on social dates leading up to intimacy, then forcing yourself is only going to make you and her uncomfortable. This level of discomfort will make the situaiton not work out, and then you will both end up failing at a relationship.
My best advice, stay out of the dating pool until it seems like the only place you want to be. Then you will know you are ready to go. That is unless you are cool with getting shot down and losing your chance with this girl.
My opinion of therapy is that it is for the indulgent and rich unless you have an actual psycological condition which needs treatment. If all you are looking for is comfort and confirmation of your self worth, then you can find that at any strip club for the right price.