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POLL RESULTS: When smartphones happen to dumb people: (14 comments)

POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people

Friday, June 03, 2011 - 12:00 AM

> A reader writes... Q: My boyfriend sextexted me a naked photo of himself from the neck down now he wants me to do the same for him. I feel weird about it. But he says it’s no big deal since you won’t be able to see my face. What do you think? I don’t want him to think I’m a prude.
POLL: Should she send her boyfriend a naked pic?
 
26% (483) Heck yeah... why not? Her face isn't going to be in it.
 
73% (1313) No way! She's asking for trouble!
1796 people have voted in this poll. (This poll is not active.)
akkhima
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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Friday, June 03, 2011 - 12:35 AM (#59294)

The way the question is asked, it almost sounds as this is being asked from someone under 18, and if that's the case, the answer is very blatantly no, don't do it.

Assuming that's not the case, I'm pretty ambivalent about it. I really don't think it's going to cause any real trouble, but I think if she's uncomfortable, that's ok. She's allowed to be, and if he thinks she's a prude for it, he's probably kind of a jerk and won't respect her boundaries in the future either.


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hightechartist
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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Friday, June 03, 2011 - 12:40 AM (#59295)

I said no, because it seems pretty obvious you are not comfortable doing it.
Personally, I've never had any qualms about sending naked pics, face or not, but that's because I think our nudity taboo is silly.
When I was younger, I often pressured girls into sending me naked pictures, taking advantage of an obvious attraction to me to get them to progressively do more and more that they were uncomfortable with just to serve my own selfish desires. Which is another good reason to not do it.
Ask yourself this, do you really want this guy to still have a naked photo of you even after the relationship is over?


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CasualNotice
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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Friday, June 03, 2011 - 06:13 AM (#59298)

Never do anything that makes you uncomfortable.


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IronOx
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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Friday, June 03, 2011 - 06:25 AM (#59299)

If he really wants just a picture of you naked without your face, could be a hint on how he sees you anyway - or how he wants to see you.


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Murgatroyd
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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Friday, June 03, 2011 - 06:35 AM (#59300)

In more ways than one, this seems kind of juvenile. And if the boyfriend is as immature as he seems, then the Original Poster might do well to consider that there are more ways to identify a woman than by seeing her face. Her boyfriend might even want the photo so he can show it off to his friends and say, "See! I told you I did her!" Or maybe he intends to Photoshop a picture of her face onto the body.


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Murgatroyd
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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Friday, June 03, 2011 - 06:38 AM (#59301)

Say ... Your boyfriend isn't a Congressman, is he?


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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Friday, June 03, 2011 - 08:14 AM (#59302)

Are you certain the photo he sent is him?
What is the worst thing that could happen, and are you ready to live with that? Remember one Miss America lost her title and had to restart her life after a naked photo incident. Infamy lives forever on the web.
Finally, if you were to break up he would have photos to share inappropriately with anyone, your family, friends, and new boyfriends.
Don't do it.


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NunyaBidness
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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Friday, June 03, 2011 - 09:41 AM (#59303)
In Response to CaptainSmokeblower (#59302):

Former Ms America Ms Williams' photos were a lesbian scene. Not quite the same. (And they were rather classy and well done, IMO).

Lots of people send faceless photos for personal interest, and for safety in case the pics are lost/intercepted. That's fine.

However, if the OP is not comfortable doing so, that's her choice. She doesn't have to perform any sex act she doesn't like, and this is a sex act.


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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Friday, June 03, 2011 - 11:04 AM (#59304)

A couple of things...

1.) unless you are doing porn, or you're a bonafide photographic artist, don't. Sooner or later, someone other than you and your paramour WILL see those images. It's the way pf the digital world, so unless you want them to be public, don't do it.

2.)Just because your head is hidden does not mean you are unidentifiable. any distinguishing mark on your body, be it a mole, a tattoo, a scar, or the way you "groom" yourself and someone could go "say, don't I know you from." is that a conversation you want to have with your parents, or your future children?

3.) in many states sexting is actually ILLEGAL, for numerous reasons, mostly "won't someone think of the children" because you're sending indecent material over a public medium (FCC-moderated radio waves). so any public prosecutor with an axe to grind could choose to make an example of you and your boyfriend.


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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Friday, June 03, 2011 - 11:16 AM (#59305)

It all depends.

What it depends on is how gullible and easily mislead you are.

As several posters have already said, what goes up(loaded) must come down(loaded)


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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Friday, June 03, 2011 - 05:13 PM (#59308)

You shouldn't send any nude photos over the cell phone to your boyfriend (or girlfriend).

However, if you remain unconvinced about that statement, then let me ask you to e-mail me various nude pictures of yourself since you don't seem to mind doing stupid stuff for stupid reasons.

My best advice - get a better boyfriend, this one is nothing but trouble looking to capitalize on your "luv" addled foolishness.


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zorklat
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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Saturday, June 04, 2011 - 01:04 AM (#59311)

NOTHING sent over any electronic medium is private. Your boyfriend is objectifying you by asking you to remove your face. If you have the idea that he isn't subjecting you to peer pressure to engage in foolish and imprudent behavior, you haven't watched enough after-school specials. You deserve better.


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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Sunday, June 05, 2011 - 12:28 PM (#59312)

No matter what happens in a relationship, something like this can come back to bite you in the ass. In a previous relationship, my ex and I took nude pictures of each other, and stereotypically, it ended badly. I destroyed the pics of her, but she kept the ones of me and used them against me for quite some time. Just do yourself the favor, and don't take the picture despite whatever your boyfriend says.


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Re: POLL: When smartphones happen to dumb people (Score: 0)
posted Sunday, June 05, 2011 - 03:03 PM (#59313)

First of all, it's your body, so you have the right to say no if anything makes you too uncomfortable.

If either of you are under 18 then just don't share pictures of yourselves. The risk of it getting out is too much, and the legal consequences are pretty dangerous for the underage.

If you are over 18, maybe, but only if you don't mind everybody in the world seeing it. Pictures are forever (even more so now than in the old days) and even faceless ones aren't too hard to identify.

If you don't want him to think you're a prude, you might surprise him with something wild someplace where it's just the two of you. (Pro-tip: lots of guys love it outside the bedroom.)

Finally, if he threatens to leave you unless you give him this picture, you are better off without him no matter how you may feel at the moment.


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