Q: I had a feeling that the guy I’ve been seeing for the past year was spending the weekend in another city with someone else. But I had a family emergency, and needed someone to talk to so I called him. That was a mistake. I heard another woman’s voice in the background and he quickly rushed me off the phone. I felt awful. A few days later, he called me and we talked. He apologized and everything. But I’m still feeling some kind of way. The holidays are coming and I don’t want to be alone again. My whole situation feels so unfair. But It’s me not being fair to myself. I realize that this is not about him but about my needs.