Red state blues

Watch some porn that depicts what you'd like to do with him.

Hypnosis.

Okay, seriously, this has to be one of those textbook cases where the solution is communication. Tell him what you like, find out what he likes, see where the two meet, and build from there.

And...yeah...that's about all I have to say.

(Well, except this: you are all getting sleepy...very very sleepy...not from my writing style...you are asleep...when you wake up, you will do anything I say without question...particularly concerning a watermelon, a cheesecake, and a catapult...you are awake...)

(Heh heh heh...)

Try a change of venue. It may be something about the location that is inhibiting/restricting him. Take a short trip to a secluded beach, find a nearby hotel with a hot tub, etc. Be adventurous!

A lot depends on what "adventurous" means. Will he not perform anything but "missionary" with the lights off, then yes he probably does need to pick up his game some. If it takes naked sky diving from 20k feet to get you off, then you might be expecting a bit much from anyone. The odds are what you are looking for is something between those two levels.

The solution is to actually initiate with "minor" adjustments to your "routine" love life and to see how far his libido will take you both. Communication helps, but starting something fresh like trying some "naughty nurse cosplay" before sex can open up new possibilities as well. The trick is to be adventurous youself without becoming either too frightening or demanding.

If he really isn't into anything but vanilla there may be nothing you can do. My number is...

The Sex is Fun podcast people put out a "Sexual Inventory" question sheet. I've personally used it, and it led to some nice surprises, and is nice to revisit from time to time to keep things exciting.

Link below to the PDF.

http://www.sexisfun.net/podcast/documents/sexualin ventory.pdf [sexisfun.net]

Well, you could talk to him about it.

Or you could just effin' do it ...

What's stopping you, Miss Shrinking Violet, from taking the initiative? When you're in bed, what's preventing you from saying "Close your eyes, I'm going to give you a big surprise!"

Whether it's climbing on top, doing him with a strap-on, or bringing in three of your girlfriends to join you, what's holding you back from at least trying something new and seeing how he reacts?