The question merely asks about 'flamboyant' - which you exaggerate completely and cast in a very negative way.
"get him to lay off the theatrics everywhere else and show off only to people tolerant enough to limit their complaints to shouts of 'Get a room, you two!' instead of baseball bats or 6mm rounds from pocket pistols."
The reality is, your post affirms the sad point that MalikTous made - that homophobes will look for any excuse to abuse, denigrate, defame, marginalize and attack gay people. ... Because homophobes will always see anything gay men do in the worst way, the way that feeds their heterosexist egos, anyways.
People don't often tell you that there's too little drama in your life, right?