A reader writes...Q: When is it appropriate for a boss or co-worker to touch you? My boss is always putting his arm on mine or my shoulder or my back when he talks to me. It doesn’t seem sexual, but I’m not real comfortable with it. I’ve also worked at places where everyone hugs everyone else for the least little thing. I’m probably in the minority on this, but that doesn’t seem appropriate either. What are the rules on this?

You don't. He or she is the boss.

In a private conversation.

In public, but in a joking, friendly way.

Get a co-worker to mention it.

E-mail.

Suggestion box.

With a knee raised sharply upward.

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A reader writes...Q: "I'm divorced, in my mid-50s, and so frustrated over the lack of suitable men to date. Many of my single women friends, older and younger than me, say the same thing. I've tried online dating, but it depresses me to meet so many men who are boring or weird. I look at the men's profiles, and I just think - yuck! Yet I know women who've met great men online, even married them. What am I doing wrong?"

	11% (98)	Online dating
	8% (77)	Church
	41% (366)	Social groups
	15% (132)	Volunteering
	3% (34)	Bars
	15% (140)	Give up now
	3% (33)	I'll share my suggestion in the Comments section...

A reader writes...Q: I've been married to a wonderful woman for three years. I'm in my 40s, and this is my second marriage. During my first marriage, I decided that I never wanted to have children and so had a vasectomy. My current wife knew this before we married, but now she says she wants a family. She is adamant and says she's not sure our marriage can survive if we don't have children. So I'm faced with two problems: Are vasectomies reversible? And should I have an unwanted child for the sake of my marriage?

	72% (1027)	No way! He made his feelings clear before they got married!
	21% (301)	Maybe... Maybe he'd like kids if he tried.
	5% (84)	Yes! A happy wife is a happy life.

A reader writes...Q: My wife wants to try tantric sex. I think it sounds incredibly boring. Should I try it?

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	41% (276)	Yes.
	29% (196)	No.
	29% (197)	Sex without orgasm? I've been giving my partner that for years!

A reader writes...Q: My girlfriend Linda has this old friend, Ryan, who visits now and then. Ryan is gay. I've never had a problem with gay folks, but this guy can't seem to get through a conversation without some tale of his exploits with men -- and he shares a lot more than I want to hear from anybody, gay or straight. The thing is that Linda and he go way back. Should I tell her how much he bugs me or just let it ride and make myself scarce when he comes to visit? Or am I a closet homophobe who needs re-education?

	16% (212)	... have his girlfriend speak to the guy.
	57% (749)	... man up and speak to the guy himself.
	7% (97)	... loosen up.
	5% (77)	... leave before the guy visits.
	12% (157)	... try to switch the conversation by sharing stories of his own sex life

A reader writes... : I am a single mother with an 18-year-old daughter. I was called away overnight on business recently and I told my daughter that she was not to have any guests over while I was gone. I was back the next evening and the house was fine. She'd kept it clean and said things went well. A couple of days later when I was emptying the bathroom trash I found a condom wrapper. Now I am thinking the worst, but don't want to cause a big scene. But since it looks like she lied to me, I can't let it go either. How should I handle this?

	0% (17)	... ground her daughter
	15% (264)	... have a frank talk with the daughter about safe sex
	14% (246)	... forget about the sex, it's the lying that matters
	59% (1029)	... talk about the sex / punish the lying
	9% (157)	... look the other way
	1% (29)	... find a job that doesn't require her to be away from home at night

A reader writes... Q: I am 35 and a lifelong bachelor. I'd love to get married someday and start a family. I'm dating through an Internet dating site, and I wonder: Am I at the age where I should consider dating women with children? Do you have cutoff dates for this? Any advice? I am leaning toward women with children. I target 29-40-year-olds.

	32% (340)	YES! Why *wouldn't* he??
	29% (303)	SURE. He wants to get married and start a family... two birds / one stone.
	4% (45)	NO WAY! Kids are a drag on the relationship!
	28% (295)	NOPE. With his attitude? He'd approach her as if she was his second choice.
	5% (52)	NO. Once a lifelong bachelor, always a lifelong bachelor